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May 7, 2011 By Lance 7 Comments

How can AA help a family, when the mother is being court ordered to attend? What is AA going to do for someone who is reluctant to even be there?

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  1. Father Creepy says:
    May 7, 2011 at 6:47 pm

    AA does not even help the people who go there on their own. It just replaces one unhealthy addiction for another unhealthy addiction. AA just don’t work to be honest.

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  2. jherder2 says:
    May 7, 2011 at 7:43 pm

    it cant sammy AA has a very low success rate,as do most recovery programs,mom has to want to do it ,good luck,30 yrs drunk,lol

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  3. Person With Disabilities --- PWD says:
    May 7, 2011 at 7:50 pm

    Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) is a 12-steps program which addresses the root causes of the disease of alcoholism. If an Alcoholic shows up at an Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) meeting, they can listen until they feel comfortable enough to share with the group. There are basically two types of AA meetings which are open meetings or closed meetings.

    Once an Alcoholic get sober, then they carry the AA message to other Alcoholics which is one of the ways that helps them to stay sober.

    There is Al-Anon for the alcoholic’s family and there is Alateen for teens of alcoholic parents.

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  4. B&B is Infinite says:
    May 7, 2011 at 8:31 pm

    It doesn’t matter how you get there. Some of us were court-ordered. Some of us went on our own. Some went at the insistence of loved ones. I can guaran-damn-tee you that nearly every person who walks into a meeting for their first time is reluctant, or downright pissed to be there. I have yet to see someone come into AA saying “Hooray! I just realized that the disease of alcoholism is kicking my ass, and I’m so happy to be sitting in this room full of strangers as I tremble and hallucinate from detox symptoms! Yippee!”

    The fact is, we all started out reluctantly. I walked in those doors kicking and screaming, cussing out everyone who looked at me sideways. I showed up right when the meeting began, got my court paper signed, and bolted out the door as soon as it ended. But, because I was court-ordered to attend, I wasn’t able to leave before the miracle happened…and it took a few months before the first miracle. That miracle was the realization that I truly was an alcoholic, that as much as I hated these meetings, I wanted what these people had to offer. Finally, I became willing to listen, follow suggestions, and eventually go to any lengths to get sober. I am now finished with my court order, still attending and chairing meetings, and coming up on three years of sobriety.

    AA does not guarantee sobriety. There is no way to predict who will get sober and who will relapse. But, I have seen a great many people come through those doors with court papers in their hands, and stick around to celebrate months and even years of consecutive sobriety. The AA preamble states that “Rarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly followed our path”. If your family member becomes willing to follow a few simple suggestions to stay sober today, he or she just might make it.

    Wishing you the best.

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  5. bmtnwi says:
    May 7, 2011 at 9:03 pm

    AA itself doesn’t help. But, the fact that her alcohol abuse has brought her to this place where she is being forced to give up her power over herself to make her own decisions (a.k.a. brought her to being forced to go to AA) may help put things into perspective. Hopefully, it will make her want to get control over her life again… and the only way to do that is to get control over your addictions.

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  6. Reverend S says:
    May 7, 2011 at 9:46 pm

    AA does not help anyone. People in AA quit drinking because they have simply decided it was time and AA takes the credit. AA has the same success rate as quitting on ones own. Why do you think some people attend AA for 20 years or more and then all of a sudden after years and years of AA not working it all of a sudden works for them? It is because they reached a point where they decided it was time to quit but was brainwashed that they could not do it on their own so they quit in AA and AA takes the credit and they praise AA while most of the time being very unhappy.

    My short stint in AA I saw AA hurting more people than it helped. It hurts them because they brainwash you into believing you have a disease that you cannot control and you cannot think for yourself because it was your best thinking that got you here so you must give up your power to your sponsor and the AA group and let them make decisions for you for at least a year. They tell you who to talk to, you cannot date, they give legal and medical advise without a license they tell people to flush their anti depressants down the toilet because if you take any kind of drug even when it is needed you are not sober.

    The very first step is to declare that you are powerless and thus in need of their god which cannot cure your disease but only give yu a daily reprieve thus enslaving you to the program for life.

    People who take back their power and qu their own are much better off

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  7. Helen W. says:
    May 7, 2011 at 10:14 pm

    I went to AA for many years and one of the few bits of wisdom I heard there was that if someone wanted to get sober, there was nothing you could say or do that would be wrong…and if they didn’t, there was nothing you could say or do that would be right. And over the years as I sponsored people, I saw first hand that this was true. People who wanted to get sober…well, they got sober. And the ones who didn’t, didn’t. Oddly enough, though…when someone failed, they were blamed for their failure…but when someone succeeded, it was always because of AA!

    If this sounds incredible, it’s because it really is.

    So. If your mom doesn’t want to get sober, that’s pretty much it. You can shuffle over to Al-Anon where they’ll tell you that YOU have a disease too, or you can simply accept that fact that your mom will get sober if and when she decides that her life sucks so bad that she doesn’t see another option.

    That said, I’ve been sober 10 years after a 25 year drinking history, so I know it can be done. But I did it because I wanted to, not because AA bestowed it on me.

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